Sin of Adultery

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FAITH Q&A: Repercussions of Adultery

By The Reverend Duke Tufty, Senior Pastor, Unity Temple on the Plaza

Q: "I had an affair that my wife never found out about, but the guilt of my actions is destroying me. Is there any way to free myself of it?"

A: Infidelity murders a relationship. You broke a sacred trust, and in doing so a wedge was driven into the heart of the relationship, and now it is dead. There is nothing you can do to change that.

You have shamed yourself, made a mockery of the love you committed to on your wedding day and insulted God by your irreverence to the sacred institution of marriage. I hope you know that. If for some reason you don't, I suggest you cease reading at this point and walk out of your wife's life forever in order that she might find someone with whom she can experience true love.

If you are fully aware of the severity of your actions, the only way to ascend from the pit of guilt and shame is to become a better person and husband than you would have been if the affair never would have happened.

This could be done by developing a new relationship with your wife. A relationship in which you are a wiser, more trustworthy and more honorable person than you have ever been before and truly incapable of future acts of infidelity. In this new relationship you love, honor and cherish your wife in a way you never have before, and your commitment is truly until death do you part.

This doesn't justify your misdeed, but as a result of your actions you have created a stronger marital relationship, your wife has a better, more loving husband, and your sense of worthiness is restored.

You may contact the Rev. Duke Tufty at duke1023@hotmail.com.

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